The guide
Articles by Ayal Elbaz, a therapist of more than twenty years, on choosing a partner with your eyes open.
Chemistry vs. compatibility - what really makes it last
That irresistible pull is real, and wonderful - but it is not what keeps two people together. An article on the difference between chemistry and compatibility, and why you need both.
Does he let you be yourself, or try to change you?
The difference between caring and controlling can be hard to see early on. A therapist on why "allowing you to be" matters so much, and how to tell care from control while you are dating.
Does he truly listen? Signs to notice
Many men can talk and many can nod along - fewer truly listen. An article on why listening matters so much in a relationship, and the signs to notice while you are dating.
How he treats his parents, and what it tells you
Not every family is a happy one. An article on why a man's basic respect for his parents - even where they fell short - often shows how he will treat the people closest to him.
How to know if he's the right man for you
A therapist of more than twenty years on the qualities that decide whether a relationship lasts, and how to see them clearly while you are still getting to know him.
Is he serious about a future with you?
Some men talk about "someday"; others build towards it. An article on how to tell whether he truly believes in a lasting relationship - and wants one with you.
Red flags in the first few dates
The early weeks show more than we think - if we know what to notice. An article on the signs worth paying attention to while you are still getting to know him.
Signs he's open with you
Closeness grows from sharing. An article on why a man who opens up about himself makes for a deeper, steadier relationship - and how to tell whether he is letting you in.
Why honesty can't be outscored
Charm, kindness and success cannot make up for a man who isn't honest with you. An article on why honesty is the one quality nothing compensates for, and how to see it early.